Why did she say that?
Why did he look at me that way?
Why DIDN'T she or he do or say this or that?
What did that (insert any interaction) REALLY mean?
It turns out it all stems from expectations we place on others to say or perform or do exactly how we think they should. When did I become so full of myself? When did I decide that how I think others should behave is correct or the only way? Reality check... I am not in control of anyone else but me. The frustration, anger, hurt comes when we think otherwise.
Today I am practicing simplifying my thoughts. Turns out I don't need to think so much. I can free myself of a lot of mental space if I simply release the need to try and understand why people say or do things the way they choose. I can instead let it be what it is, move on and not create meaning in it.
My desire is harmony. I am seeking harmony within myself, thereby creating harmony wherever I am.
We can choose to be complex, living in discord and bogged down in all of the unnecessary, or we can simplify by beginning to unclutter our minds of that inner-dialogue that gets us locked up in emotional prison.
Lead with your heart not your mind. Cultivate love, compassion and empathy and give it freely. Then we can begin to treat ourselves and others with kindness and let others be who they are without making them wrong. We can give up trying to control everything... instead focus that energy on controlling yourself.
"But only a simple heart throbs with God, hand in hand. Only a simple heart sings with God in deep harmony. To reach to that point you will have to find your heart, your own throb, your own beat." Osho, Dang Dang Doko Dang
Love this! Such a hard lesson that God has been working on me about! When we concern ourselves so much with what others think, rather than being a selfless act as I once thought, it is actually selfish! Love your writting sista! Muah!
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